5 Ways to Reclaim Your Magic - The Wholesome Handbook

“See, this is my opinion: we all start out knowing magic. We are born with whirlwinds, forest fires, and comets inside us. We are born able to sing to birds and read the clouds and see our destiny in grains of sand. But then we get the magic educated right out of our souls. We get it churched out, spanked out, washed out, and combed out. We get put on the straight and narrow and told to be responsible. Told to grow up, for God’s sake. And you know why we were told that? Because the people doing the telling were afraid of our wildness and youth, and because the magic we knew made them ashamed and sad of what they’d allow to wither in themselves”.
– from A Boy’s Life, by Robert McCammon.

We all know someone who is just dripping with magic – who marches to the beat of their own drum, who seems to be able to navigate life with grace and style, who walks in a soft and wild confidence. They have the ‘it’ factor. They are beautifully alive, totally self-contained, and have an undeniable magnetism. Magic is our life-force. Magic is our presence, our libido, our creative energy. And many of us have lost it.

Working to reclaim our magic is an act of restorative self-care. When we are living in our magic, we become curious, passionate, strong, and wise. We thrive. Every person’s path is different, but if you are struggling with where to start, I recommend the following.

1. Live with the cycles of the earth. 

Seasonal living awakens a deep and abiding grasp of your place in the universe, a profound kinship with oak trees and wild salmon, lichen and dusk. It reminds you that you are not separate from the earth, the stars, or the animals, but one with them.

The earth teaches by example – every autumn helps us understand loss; every full moon is resplendent in orgasm. Living by the seasons simply means observing the earth’s cycles and applying them to your own life. Give yourself rest and contemplation in the winter. Awaken to new beginnings in the spring. Adventure and rejoice in the bounty of summer, and release and give thanks in the autumn. Look to the moon – when she is becoming fuller, become fuller. When she recedes, recede. Look quietly into yourself when she is dark, and play wildly when she is full. Live by and with the land, and watch your magic bloom back into being.

2. Exercise your intuition.

We are all born with an incredible intuition, an instinct that both warns us against danger and tugs us onto the right path. Your intuition is always looking out for you, pulling you to good people and opportunities, and telling you to shy away from shady characters and situations. But our intuition is trained out of us at an early age. We’re taught to ignore it in favour of following social scripts and displaying expected behaviour. We’re told who to trust, what is right and wrong, true and false, and that the grown-ups always know best.

The only way to counteract this social conditioning and reclaim the magic of your powerful intuition is to trust yourself above all others. Listen to your gut. Do not try to rationalize your true feelings away. If you feel called to do something, listen. If you feel that something is slightly off about a person or situation, listen. If you can’t get something out of your head, listen.

Intuition is like a muscle – the more you use it, the more powerful it becomes. Trust yourself, and you will never be led astray.

3. Commune.

I cannot stress enough the importance of community in reclaiming your magic. It is so valuable to gather and to share your stories, wisdom, and struggles around the proverbial fire. Speaking your truth is transformative. To be heard, validated, supported – that is a gift that we deny ourselves too often, and a hugely powerful catalyst of self-worth. Make the time, whenever you can, to meet with your people.

4. Celebrate yourself.

There is no one on this earth that has your unique set of qualities. You are nothing short of a work of art, rare and complex and completely irreplaceable. Spend time thinking about what it is that makes you you – that is where your magic lives.

Often times the very qualities that carry our magic have also been met with scorn. If you are sensitive, you’ve been called weak. If you possess a formidable will, you’re a bitch. Passionate, crazy. The list goes on. Those of us who have lost their magic are keen to see it destroyed in others. But if you unabashedly love and celebrate these qualities in yourself, you begin to re-conceptualize them as sources of strength and power, and your magic seeps through.

5. Stop consuming and accepting the mundane.

In order to live your magic, whole and vibrant, you must first eliminate everything that dampens or drains you. Media, relationships, jobs, habits – be ruthless in your pruning. Let go of anything that does more to hold you back than to propel you forward. Eliminate noise.

Do not waste your precious life taking part in or consuming anything that does not leave you feeling inspired, fulfilled, and buzzing with vitality. Assess your habits honestly, and choose meaningful inspiration over comfort, ease, and familiarity every. Single. Time. Do not let the mundane in.

Reclaiming our magic is a journey, not a task. We must learn to shake ourselves out of the haze of everyday routine, to seek magic fervently, to dedicate ourselves to the pursuit of our potential. It is difficult work, but worthy. We all possess magic, and igniting it will transform our lives.